Bondage play specifically refers to heightening and teasing the sense of your partner. Although there is still intercourse in bondage play, the focus is more on eroticism through the use of blindfolds, handcuffs, whips, vaginal balls and other sex toys. The most common bondage act is the use of handcuffs and blindfold to limit the movement of one partner. When the arms are tied together and the eyes are covered, all the other senses are heightened and awakened. With that feeling of restriction, helplessness or being powerless, one partner exerts dominance over the other, which is what S&M is all about.

Thanks to the popularity of E.L. James' novel "Fifty Shades of Grey", women have become more open to the prospect of introducing kink in the bedroom. In fact, they've become more open to talking about sex in general because of the romantic/voyeuristic adventures of Anastasia Steele and Christian Grey. If this is something that you're willing to try in your own bedroom, it pays to learn about the basics.

FSOG-Sex-ToysWhy S&M?

First, what exactly is BDSM or S&M? BDSM is a quite complex term which involves bondage, sadism and masochism. It might sound very intimidating especially for couples who do not even use sex toys in the bedroom – but it's actually more common than you might think. If one out of five couples engage in S&M practices in the bedroom, it means that a good percentage of the population have introduced kinky toys and practices at one point or another in their sex lives.

If you're trying out bondage play for the first time, look for the 'tamer' BDSM sex toys like handcuffs and masks for blindfolding your partner. This can be introduced in the bedroom of couples who are looking for ways to spice things up in the bedroom. To make sure that your partner will not go running in the opposite direction once you bring out a whip or a flogger, be sure to have a thorough talk about it first.

Assure your partner that he or she is not at all inadequate, and taking the BDSM route is just a sexual fantasy that you would like to fulfil. Who knows, if your partner likes it enough, those S&M adult toys might be a regular part of your bedroom activities?